Eight Tips for Single Women Who
Want an Intimate, Bonded Relationship
By Carolyn Bushong

1. Don’t have sex too soon. Make sure you take time to know each other.
 
2. Always tell him what you want from him and from the relationship and what you will do if you don’t get it.
 
3. Don’t give him the power to make […]

LOVE ADVICE
Q&A:  She wants sex, he doesn’t.
Question:
I am engaged to be married to a wonderful man!  He’s a loving family man with a secure job, he loves me dearly and tells me often, and he doesn’t have a problem showing affection toward me in public.  The problem is when we go to bed.  He likes […]

EXES- SHOULD YOU STAY FRIENDS OR NOT?  Angelina Jolie likes to stay in touch with her exes.  Life & Style Magazine recently called me and asked me why she would want to do that and I told them. 
Why do people keep exes in their lives, and should they?
The Why:
1)         APPROVAL ISSUES.  The person who […]

DO YOU NEED RELATIONSHIP COUNSELING? Couples often put off seeing a therapist, hoping that things will work themselves out on their own.  Many times we think the issues got resolved, when what really happened is we forgot about it, and then the same issue rears it ugly head again.  And when it comes back with it […]

8 Key Ingredients of Love By Carolyn Bushong 
The Eight Key Ingredients of Love 
1.                  Common relationship goals regarding the present and the future including (but not limited to) emotional intimacy, quality time together, pursuit of interests, marriage, children, social life, a home, financial security, sexual intimacy and companionship.
2.                  A Feeling of goodwill that comes from warmth […]

WHAT TO EXPECT FROM THERAPYPart 2Kathy Chose a Therapist Just Like Her “Boyfriends”From New Woman Magazine 06/88 by Carolyn Bushong 
Kathy was frustrated.  She’d been in therapy for years and couldn’t understand why she wasn’t getting any better.  In fact, at times she was sure her problem – her relationships with men – was getting worse.
She’d […]

THERAPY EXPECTATIONS
By Carolyn Bushong
(excerpted from my article in New Woman Magazine, June 1988) People go into therapy for different reasons.  Often a life crisis, such as a divorce or loss of a job, triggers the decision.  Sometimes a client wants to overcome anxiety or depression.  People also reach out for help with addictions to alcohol and/or […]

TEN REASONS YOU’RE NOT MARRIED YET
By Carolyn Bushong
Licensed Professional Counselor
 
You feel sad when you see couples walking down the street holding hands. You wonder how that unattractive girl found a handsome man like that when you can’t keep a boyfriend longer than two months. At every family gathering, the same questions are asked, “Honey, haven’t […]