7 DATING RULES

1)         Don’t  Close Off Options Too Soon:  Date several people at once for at least 3 months.

2)         Don’t invest too much in him too soon:  Don’t decide “He’s the one!” until you’ve known him at least a year.

3)         Don’t give too much.  Make sure you get back as much as you give (tit for tat).  Relationships get out-of-balance really easily and if you overgive, it will continue to be expected and he’ll become a “taker.”

4)         Don’t  open up anymore than he does:  Expose your baggage and complaints about your life at the same rate that he does or you’re handing him power against you.

5)         Don’t have sex too soon:  You need to give him time to invest in you emotionally.  Wait until at least the 5^th date.

6)         Don’t mesh your identity with his:  Keep your own friends and interests, and be sure he is willing to equally join your world.

7)         Don’t push for a commitment without giving him an ultimatum:  Don’t nag, but eventually let him know that if the relationship does not move forward, you’ll go back to dating others.

About the Author: Carolyn Bushong, a Denver, CO licensed therapist, helps couples resolve issues and helps singles with dating advice — in her office, online, and by phone. She’s author of Loving Him Without Losing You, Bring Back the Man You Fell in Love With, and The 7 Dumbest Relationship Mistakes Smart People Make. She’s appeared on Oprah and the View. http://www.carolynsays.com. 303-333-1888.

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