5 Ways to Rekindle Love:

1. Make sure your own life’s on track. Are you the exciting vital person you were when you married? If not, why not? Recreate your “Life Before Mate” identity that sparked the relationship initially. It takes two happy healthy people to have a happy healthy relationship.

2. Rebuild Trust. The spark can die when one partner feels hurt by the other because the trust is damaged. Whether or not one mate intentionally hurt the other or not, the issue needs to be discussed and resolved to both people’s satisfaction. Make a vow that the two of you will discuss your issues on a regular basis (or with a therapist) until there is resolution.

3. Plan your future together. Most couples are busy following a script written by their parents. Don’t follow their script. Instead work together and create your own set of guidelines and goals for your future.

4. Be emotionally honest in your conversation. Don’t protect your mate from your bad feelings. When you do, you build a wall of resentment inside yourself that won’t let your feelings of love come through. Share, and be sure your mate shares, and then really listen so you can hear what he or she is telling you.

5. Make romance a priority. Schedule regular dates with each other. Constantly look for new ways to bond. Look for ways to have fun. Remind your mate what it is you love about him or her. Become a mutual admiration society.

Falling in love and staying in love are not as difficult as people think, as long as you’re willing to do what’s necessary to keep your love alive.

About the Author: Carolyn Bushong, a Denver, CO licensed therapist, helps couples resolve issues and helps singles with dating advice — in her office, online, and by phone. She’s author of Loving Him Without Losing You, Bring Back the Man You Fell in Love With, and The 7 Dumbest Relationship Mistakes Smart People Make. She’s appeared on Oprah and the View. http://www.carolynsays.com. 303-333-1888.

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